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When was the last time you had to climb up a set of steps... a long set of steps? The first section is relatively easy, then they get a little harder as your legs start to feel the effects of climbing. But then you get to a point where it’s easier to keep going than to turn around... you’ve got a good rhythm and with each step you get closer to your destination.
When we have big plans, or we’re facing challenges, starting just needs us to take a single step. It doesn’t matter how small... take that step.
The challenge you face might be as simple as getting up or walking out your front door or it might be learning a new skill or studying. The big plans could be a holiday, a new or developing business or even training for a competition.
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This photo was taken last week as we walked up the Maitland Bay Track on the NSW Central Coast. And it really felt like the steps to the car park were never going to end! But the beauty of the bush and the views along the Bouddi Coastal Walk were stunning.
🍃
#enhancelife
#crawleyhouse
#albertpark
#psychologist
#performance
#sportpsychology
#privatepractice
#mentalhealth
#eliteathlete
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When was the last time you had to climb up a set of steps... a long set of steps? The first section is relatively easy, then they get a little harder as your legs start to feel the effects of climbing. But then you get to a point where it’s easier to keep going than to turn around... you’ve got a good rhythm and with each step you get closer to your destination. 
When we have big plans, or we’re facing challenges, starting just needs us to take a single step. It doesn’t matter how small... take that step. 
The challenge you face might be as simple as getting up or walking out your front door or it might be learning a new skill or studying. The big plans could be a holiday, a new or developing business or even training for a competition. 
📷
This photo was taken last week as we walked up the Maitland Bay Track on the NSW Central Coast. And it really felt like the steps to the car park were never going to end! But the beauty of the bush and the views along the Bouddi Coastal Walk were stunning.
🍃
#enhancelife
#crawleyhouse
#albertpark
#psychologist
#performance
#sportpsychology
#privatepractice
#mentalhealth
#eliteathlete

Holidays don't have to mean an expensive overseas or interstate trip. They can be as simple as taking a break from work... and that means completely logging off from work for a period of time. It could be about visiting friends and just spending time.
I've just finished a holiday visiting with friends. We laughed a lot, took our time each day and I slept a lot, longer than I usually do. I feel relaxed and my energy has been rejuvenated.
I realise how tired I was after the past 12 months. I now realise that I need to plan regular breaks when I can have downtime without work intruding so I can relax and fill my cup so I have energy to do what I do as a psychologist.
Have you taken time to relax and fill your cup? What do you need to do to feel refreshed.
#enhancelife
#crawleyhouse
#albertpark
#psychologist
#psychology
#mentalhealth
#selfcare
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Holidays dont have to mean an expensive overseas or interstate trip. They can be as simple as taking a break from work... and that means completely logging off from work for a period of time. It could be about visiting friends and just spending time.
Ive just finished a holiday visiting with friends. We laughed a lot, took our time each day and I slept a lot, longer than I usually do. I feel relaxed and my energy has been rejuvenated. 
I realise how tired I was after the past 12 months. I now realise that I need to plan regular breaks when I can have downtime without work intruding so I can relax and fill my cup so I have energy to do what I do as a psychologist.
Have you taken time to relax and fill your cup? What do you need to do to feel refreshed.
#enhancelife
#crawleyhouse
#albertpark
#psychologist 
#psychology 
#mentalhealth
#selfcare 
#holidays

Yes... we are all tired. But sometimes we miss the signs.

I’m so enjoying my holiday away from my business. I’m resting and getting lots of much needed sleep. And I’m starting to feel refreshed. It’s going to be hard returning to work next week, but I know I’ll be ready. And I’ll be looking at my diary and booking some time off in the middle of the year because I’m sure I’ll need another break by then!

What are you doing to rest, recover and really take a break? What self care are you engaging in to replenish your energy stores?

#enhancelife
#crawleyhouse
#albertpark
#psychologist
#mentalhealth
#selfcare
#holidays
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Enjoy your break, Nonie. Rest, relax & recharge.

Yes... we are all tired. But sometimes we miss the signs.

I’m so enjoying my holiday away from my business. I’m resting and getting lots of much needed sleep. And I’m starting to feel refreshed. It’s going to be hard returning to work next week, but I know I’ll be ready. And I’ll be looking at my diary and booking some time off in the middle of the year because I’m sure I’ll need another break by then!

What are you doing to rest, recover and really take a break? What self care are you engaging in to replenish your energy stores?

#enhancelife
#crawleyhouse
#albertpark
#psychologist
#mentalhealth
#selfcare
#holidaysThe other day I was talking to a friend about the struggle we've all faced this year in regards to prioritising self-care when we're all so bloody busy. The problem is, we all started the year with a deficit in our energy tank, and so of course we're feeling it more than usual this year. That nagging sense of things not being quite right within ourselves.

I confess to being my own worst enemy in this regard, and it's often why I tell my business coaching clients to "do what I say, not what I do". You see, I've been quite unwell over the past few weeks, and only have myself to blame. I had been neglecting myself woefully!

To be fair, I've had a pretty full-on start to the year. That's not unusual, it's been tough on everyone. My husband had been away for most of the year repairing flood damage to our Hobart house so we could list it for rent (after it had sat vacant for the past year due to border closures, etc). My kids both started new schools and I got stuck into new business activities. I was okay doing the parenting solo thing, and my kids seemed to be coping well too.

But then we had the snap lockdown.

It was only five days, but here in Melbourne being told it would "only be five days" didn't calm anyone's nerves. Many of us talk about the experience being 'retraumatising' after the lengthy lockdown we had last year. In fact, I don't think many of us realised just how traumatic it had all been until the snap lockdown happened. It was the beginning of the undoing for my kids and me. My husband wasn't here, so he didn't see or feel the impact of that brief lockdown, but I know many other Melbournites felt it too. We all started to crumble just a little bit more than we already were.

By mid-March my husband was back, but the kids and I were all at our wit's end. My youngest son had started struggling to cope with being away from home (school is at the end of our street) and since opted to return to homeschooling (something we did pre-covid). My husband and I struggled to be in each other's space after so much time apart (we're good now). My older son was trying to exert his independence more (which I celebrate). And I was push-push-pushing my way through it all. Juggling all the balls, holding in all the feelings, trying to keep a smile on my face. Telling everyone (including myself) "I'm fine, I'm just tired".

It's no wonder something snapped. And I suppose it's no wonder I missed the warning signs. I'd had dizzy spells, fatigue, sleep disturbances, teariness, and low appetite. I wasn't depressed but something was obviously wrong. And I kept pushing through it.

Not having learnt from my experience last year, I failed to consider that my flagging energy levels were linked to iron deficiency. And when I say deficiency, I mean iron levels that were UNDETECTABLE.

So now I'm sitting on my bed feeling drunk (that's the impact it has on me - constant wooziness and frequent word slurring) trying to read, trying to write, trying to settle on something, anything, but just unable to focus.

And all the while trying really hard not to feel like a complete idiot.

Because I have a business to run, clients to inspire, and family to support. I should know better. Right?

The feelings we all share as business owners run very deep. We feel such deep love (and sometimes deep loathing) for our businesses. We feel nagging worry and sometimes sheer terror when things aren't going well financially. We feel such exhilaration when someone asks to join our lovely team, and then feel incredible pain and sadness when much-loved team members decide it's time to move on, or worse, leave on bad terms. And of course, we feel such indescribable shame when we feel we've let the side down, stuffed up, or in some other way not been perfect.

So when I realised just how badly I'd let myself down in the self-care department, I felt so much guilt for not being available to support my team. I felt such embarrassment for not being a shining example to my clients of how to "have it all and do it all" (stupid I know). And if that wasn't enough, there was a deep sense of shame for not knowing better. Not being better. Not doing better. Not being perfect.

And this is the common ground we all tread. Trying to support ourselves, our families, and our businesses ... all on a single tank of energy. And an already depleted tank at that. All wrapped up in a blazing red bow called "unrelenting standards".

What I'm trying to say is, we all overlook our own needs from time to time. We all feel shame from time to time. We all work too hard from time to time. But it's not enough to keep pushing through it. It's not okay to just say I'll be fine. I WILL be fine, I just have to put up with this god awful feeling in my body until I can get my iron infusion on Monday. But the message is clear. And I hope it's clear to you too.

Take. Better. Care. Of. You.
Validate your needs.
Validate your feelings.
Listen to your body.
Stop putting yourself last.

Acknowledge the emotional load you're carrying, juggling all those balls. Acknowledge the physical toll that stress has on you. Acknowledge the exhaustion that accompanies that wild emotional roller coaster that we're all on.

Stop telling everyone "I'm fine, I'm just tired". Listen harder to yourself.

So if you're still tired after the Easter break, if you dreaded returning this week to the business that you feel so deeply about, what action are you prepared to take to rekindle your love affair with it? What changes, both within your business and within yourself, do you need to make?

You already know clinical burnout is real.
You understand physical burnout is real.
Management burnout is easily overlooked, but it is very bloody real too.

And the shame that comes with that can be crippling, so do whatever it takes to look after yourself better. (And yes, I'm talking to myself as much as I'm talking to you right now.)

Let yourself come up for air as often as you need. Let yourself take a moment to catch up with yourself and your needs. Let yourself take time.
Just let yourself.

Much love,
Tess x
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Yes... we are all tired. But sometimes we miss the signs. 

I’m so enjoying my holiday away from my business. I’m resting and getting lots of much needed sleep. And I’m starting to feel refreshed. It’s going to be hard returning to work next week, but I know I’ll be ready. And I’ll be looking at my diary and booking some time off in the middle of the year because I’m sure I’ll need another break by then!

What are you doing to rest, recover and really take a break? What self care are you engaging in to replenish your energy stores?

#enhancelife
#crawleyhouse
#albertpark
#psychologist
#mentalhealth
#selfcare
#holidays

Mindfulness isn’t easy, but you don’t have to make it hard.
Simply choose a space with little distraction and choose something to focus on.
You can also do things mindfully if you find sitting still and managing our distracting thoughts too hard... sometimes I find this hard too. Maybe try making a cup of tea or coffee mindfully, cooking mindfully or maybe exercising mindfully. Notice the sensations you experience as you engage in this activity and allow your thoughts to be as you pay even closer attention to what you might be seeing, hearing, feeling, tasting or smelling.

#enhancelife
#crawleyhouse
#albertpark
#psychologist
#mindfulness
#mindfulnesspractice
#noticing
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When was the last time you had to climb up a set of steps... a long set of steps? The first section is relatively easy, then they get a little harder as your legs start to feel the effects of climbing. But then you get to a point where it’s easier to keep going than to turn around... you’ve got a good rhythm and with each step you get closer to your destination.
When we have big plans, or we’re facing challenges, starting just needs us to take a single step. It doesn’t matter how small... take that step.
The challenge you face might be as simple as getting up or walking out your front door or it might be learning a new skill or studying. The big plans could be a holiday, a new or developing business or even training for a competition.
📷
This photo was taken last week as we walked up the Maitland Bay Track on the NSW Central Coast. And it really felt like the steps to the car park were never going to end! But the beauty of the bush and the views along the Bouddi Coastal Walk were stunning.
🍃
#enhancelife
#crawleyhouse
#albertpark
#psychologist
#performance
#sportpsychology
#privatepractice
#mentalhealth
#eliteathlete
...

Holidays don't have to mean an expensive overseas or interstate trip. They can be as simple as taking a break from work... and that means completely logging off from work for a period of time. It could be about visiting friends and just spending time.
I've just finished a holiday visiting with friends. We laughed a lot, took our time each day and I slept a lot, longer than I usually do. I feel relaxed and my energy has been rejuvenated.
I realise how tired I was after the past 12 months. I now realise that I need to plan regular breaks when I can have downtime without work intruding so I can relax and fill my cup so I have energy to do what I do as a psychologist.
Have you taken time to relax and fill your cup? What do you need to do to feel refreshed.
#enhancelife
#crawleyhouse
#albertpark
#psychologist
#psychology
#mentalhealth
#selfcare
#holidays
...

Yes... we are all tired. But sometimes we miss the signs.

I’m so enjoying my holiday away from my business. I’m resting and getting lots of much needed sleep. And I’m starting to feel refreshed. It’s going to be hard returning to work next week, but I know I’ll be ready. And I’ll be looking at my diary and booking some time off in the middle of the year because I’m sure I’ll need another break by then!

What are you doing to rest, recover and really take a break? What self care are you engaging in to replenish your energy stores?

#enhancelife
#crawleyhouse
#albertpark
#psychologist
#mentalhealth
#selfcare
#holidays
...

Mindfulness is simply paying attention on purpose, without judgement.
It’s the without judgement but that we often struggle with. We always have thoughts and it can be uncomfortable to allow them to float by. We can get caught up in them and assessing if they’re right or wrong.
When I’m practising mindfulness I choose to focus on one sensation, my breath, sound, or what I can hear. When I notice distraction, I gently allow this distraction to be and I switch my attention back to my chosen focus.

#enhancelife
#crawleyhouse
#albertpark
#psychologist
#mindfulness
#mindfulnesspractice
#noticing
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When was the last time you stopped, looked around and noticed the environment around you. Have you stood by a beautiful eucalyptus tree and felt the texture & temperature of the bark and thought about its age? Have you noticed the shade the canopy provides? Can you hear the wind in the leaves overhead? Have you paid close enough attention to notice the eucalyptuses scent, or picked up a gum leaf to crunch in your hand to release the scent?
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When we stop to pay attention to these things we are grounding ourselves in the present moment and this can be helpful when we feel overwhelmed. It can bring us a moment of calm and create mental space that can enable us to consider that which is overwhelming from an alternative perspective.
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#enhancelife
#crawleyhouse
#albertpark
#psychologist
#mentalhealth
#mindfulness
#presentmoment
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When an opportunity is presented do you look through the window, consider stepping through the door then turn your focus on the worst possible outcome?
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What about the best possible outcome? Do you think about that? What would happen if you shifted your focus from the worst to the best outcome?
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It might take effort to unlock this alternative, more hopeful perspective. But it’s possible to find the key and unlock the door and step through and experience the fabulous opportunities that could be on the other side.
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#enhancelife
#crawleyhouse
#albertpark
#psychologist
#mentalhealth
#opportunities
#possibilities
#perspective
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So much yes!!!
Do you struggle with perfectionism? Thinking you can do it all and have it all is an unhelpful approach to life... but many of us operate from this perspective. Finding ways to sit with imperfection and the anxiety that comes with this can be a helpful way of managing this.
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Repost @dr.menije
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“Here are the lies around perfectionism:⁠

Perfectionism is doing my best.⁠
Perfectionism keeps me going.⁠
Perfectionism helps me succeed.⁠
Perfectionism will make my dream come true.⁠
Perfectionism will make me happy.⁠

I can do it all and have it all.⁠

This is not new. This type of unrealistic and high expectations of ourselves has been around for a while. It shows up at work, it shows up the way we parent, it shows up the way we take care of our body. It is so ingrained in us that we don't think of questioning until we reach a boiling point. ⁠

Once when we are anxious and can't sleep once we are so burned out, we are paralyzed to do anything else once we are so overwhelmed, we snap at everyone and anything, that we realize this is some myth, trap, and bullshit (yes I said it). ⁠

You can't do it all and shouldn't have to do it all. If this makes you uncomfortable, stop and ask yourself why? What have I been taught that being told I don't have to do it all doesn't give me a sense of relief, but instead makes me anxious and guilty?”
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#enhancelife

#crawleyhouse
#albertpark
#psychologist
#memtalhealth
#performance
#perfectionism
#anxiety
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Next Thursday I’m participating in a discussion being run by @nevernotcreative. NNC have been bringing together industry leaders and psychologists to answer questions that can be hard to to ask.
I’m really looking forward to the chat with @nvrnotcreative and @tarra_vanam. Check out the website for more information.

https://nevernotcreative.org/afaf-april-2021

#enhancelife

#crawleyhouse
#albertpark
#performance
#events
#designers
#creatives
#afaf
#askingtheunaskable
#mentalhealth
#psychologist
#mentallyhealthy
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